What to Expect from our 1-2-1 Domestic Abuse Support

We offer 1-2-1 support sessions for LGBT people aged 16+ who are currently experiencing or have historically experienced domestic abuse from a partner(s) or family member(s).

But what do these sessions look like? To give you an idea, we’ve put together a snapshot of what’s covered if you access our domestic abuse service.

1. Initial Needs, Risk Assessment and Safety Planning

We use several types of assessment to establish your needs and any current or potential risks of harm. We’ll discuss possible ways to feel safe and how to prepare for a possible crisis situations.

2. Support Plan

We’ll help you set goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-based (S.M.A.R.T) which we will review with you over time to see how you’re progressing.

3. LGBT Power and Control Wheel

Abuse can manifest in a variety of ways and it can be really hard to recognise within LGBT relationships. We’ll discuss relationship dynamics, power imbalances and help you to identify the different forms of abuse that you have experienced or are currently experiencing. This can sometimes feel overwhelming and painful, but being able to recognise abuse is a really important step to improving your coping mechanisms and countering the impact of abuse and moving forward from the impact of the crime.

4. Stages of Domestic Abuse

Once you can identify the abuse, we begin to look at the stages and cycle of abuse. This involves looking at triggers, incidents, responses and reconciliation. Understanding the stages of abuse can be really helpful in recognising patterns of behaviour within your relationship(s) and relinquishing feelings of shame or doubt that you may experience within this cycle.

5. Identity

Abuse often results in questioning your confidence and identity. For some LGBT people, their sexual orientation and/or gender identity is dismissed as part of the abuse. Therefore, finding ways to claim, reclaim and affirm your identity can be incredibly empowering and helpful for your mental health and wellbeing. We’ll discuss how you can do this in a safe way based on your situation.

6. Pros and Cons to Leaving an Abusive Relationship

This is a big decision and we are here to support you in making the right and safest decision for you. We provide you a space to discuss whether leaving the relationship is an option, if it’s something you want and what that might look like.

7. Healthy Relationships

Part of recovering from abuse involves identifying and exploring what a healthy relationship looks like for you, how you can develop healthy approaches and what feeling safe means within the relationships you maintain.

8. Boundaries and Communication

Boundaries are really important for your health and wellbeing but they can incredibly hard to communicate, especially in relationships of abuse. Therefore, we want to empower in effectively and confidently communicating with your partner(s) or family members.

9. Consent

Consent is crucial in any relationship and is key to feeling safe, supported and respected. This can be a particularly distressing topic if you feel your right to consent has been removed. We discuss what consent means to you, why it’s important and how to safely establish consent within your relationships.

10. Moving Forward and Reflections

Initiating new relationships can be incredibly daunting. We work with you to discuss future relationships, possible barriers to having healthy relationships and reflecting on the goals you’ve made and things you’ve achieve.

11. Emotional Management, Health and Wellbeing

We look at how you can continue to manage your emotional health and general wellbeing going forward, what habits and coping mechanisms you’ve been able to establish and how you can continue to make and achieve your goals going forward.

We recognise that everyone’s experiences are different. Support sessions are tailored to your individual needs meaning you can choose to access all or a selection of them.

Some feedback from people who have accessed our service include:

‘’After being supported by you I am noticing that people are starting to warm to me and respect me because now I’m respecting myself’’ – Anonymous

“These sessions are enabling me the space to work through the trauma and rationalise it” - Anonymous

1-2-1 domestic abuse support sessions are available for LGBT people living in Greater Manchester and those living outside but with access to our community hub. If you want to self-refer to our service, click here.

More information around domestic abuse support outside of Greater Manchester, please contact our helpline on 0345 3 30 30 30.